So I was chastised for not updating my blog today. Love you Melanie, lol. There really are no updates. I'm scared to death of the thought of the costs involved with the whole adoption thing, but we are still determined. Right now we are waiting for our tax returns to start the process. I think we will go ahead and get the homestudy done first, or at least after attending a few information meetings.
It's funny, even after reading tons of information concerning adoption, it still seems mystifying to me. The whole process is just an immense undertaking. I hope we are up to it. I know emotionally we are well past the point of being ready for a family, but are we emotionally ready for the process? I only attempted fertility treatments for a couple of months, only having one IUI, but I KNEW I couldn't do that again. The medicines alone were horrible, our jobs make it impossible to take random off time based around my cycle, and the procedure itself was HORRIBLE! I don't think it's supposed to hurt, but good God, did it!!!
Basically, this post has no news, and is sort of wandering, but hey, it's a post! I'm planning, now that the holidays are over, to make this a bit mroe regular. I know I said that to begin with, but cut me a break...I work retail, I was lucky to get 5 hours of sleep a night during Christmas, lol! So here's to a new year, and our chance to have a family!
Friday, January 22, 2010
Wednesday, November 4, 2009
options, options, options
So Troy received a call from his aunt last night. She told him about a guy she knows who has adopted previously. His wife is pregnant, so I assumed it was yet another one of those "oh as soon as you start to do this you'll get knocked up" stories, but it wasn't. They weren't supposed to be able to get pregnant, so they adopted 3 children through the state.
I had previously thought those types of adoptions were only available for older children or as a foster-to-adopt type program, but apparently I was wrong. I know, I was shocked by that too, lol!!! But needless to say, Troy started doing some research (I was at work at the time) and we've discovered there are programs that are nearly free through the state for newborn adoptions. Apparently they work with adoption agencies--local ones I think--and this could be a really viable option for two broke people who want to be parents! I may not get the baby from the hospital, but as long as it wasn't a foster-to-adopt situation, I would be interested. I'm just not strong enough to deal with that.
If this works, if it's possible, Troy and I could easily adopt the 3 children we've always wanted to have. I need to read some more, and once the new year starts and we get our home study, we would get in touch with DFCS. It might mean a longer wait, but in the end we'd still have what we wanted...a family.
I had previously thought those types of adoptions were only available for older children or as a foster-to-adopt type program, but apparently I was wrong. I know, I was shocked by that too, lol!!! But needless to say, Troy started doing some research (I was at work at the time) and we've discovered there are programs that are nearly free through the state for newborn adoptions. Apparently they work with adoption agencies--local ones I think--and this could be a really viable option for two broke people who want to be parents! I may not get the baby from the hospital, but as long as it wasn't a foster-to-adopt situation, I would be interested. I'm just not strong enough to deal with that.
If this works, if it's possible, Troy and I could easily adopt the 3 children we've always wanted to have. I need to read some more, and once the new year starts and we get our home study, we would get in touch with DFCS. It might mean a longer wait, but in the end we'd still have what we wanted...a family.
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
Yet another sleepless night
So here I am, it's nearly 6 am and I can't sleep. We had our first consultation with the agency today and let me just say, sensory overload! Troy and I are so excited about the prospect of becoming parents, but to be honest, I am nervous. Primarily about the money...I've spent the night looking into loan and grant options, credit cards for adoption and fundraising options. We're looking at approximately $25k-$35k to get ourselves a baby, and while that really is about the price of a new car nowadays, you have to understand that Troy and I live completely on cash. We own our car outright, we don't use our credit cards except in case of emergency, and the only actual bill we pay, outside of utilities, is our mortgage. And let's just say that is over $150 less than we were paying in rent! So yeah, the idea of going into massive debt is killing both of us, but hey, I WILL find a way to do this!!!
I hope to update this new blog at least weekly to keep everyone updated on how we are doing and what phase of the adoption process we are in, but we'll have to see. Right now we are planning on focusing on getting the house presentable (yay for vacation time!) and saving a bit of money. Buying the house a couple of months ago depleted the already meager funds, but I think--or hope--that we can replenish a few thousand by January to get our homestudy started and then we will go from there. My goal for 2010 is to have a baby, regardless of race or gender...and if I'm lucky some girl will have twins which will make things twice as wonderful!!!
I hope to update this new blog at least weekly to keep everyone updated on how we are doing and what phase of the adoption process we are in, but we'll have to see. Right now we are planning on focusing on getting the house presentable (yay for vacation time!) and saving a bit of money. Buying the house a couple of months ago depleted the already meager funds, but I think--or hope--that we can replenish a few thousand by January to get our homestudy started and then we will go from there. My goal for 2010 is to have a baby, regardless of race or gender...and if I'm lucky some girl will have twins which will make things twice as wonderful!!!
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